When you were a child, you loved your parents, your friends....adolescence gives a new dimension to love, as attraction takes over....and finally when you are ready to settle down and get married, commitment becomes a synonym for love. However, when a little someone - your child, comes into your world, you feel like you are falling in love all over again and this time, it is different.... its way more intense, and it is UNCONDITIONAL.
This kind of love makes you do things; you would never have imagined doing before…happily!
Just so that your newborn sleeps soundly, you stay awake several nights in a row and doze off in the office, obviously receiving the boss’s disapproval...but you don’t mind it.
You see that huge mess your toddler has made and know instantly that it will take hours to clean. Your rage grows every second and you call out to him, subconsciously thinking of the right choice of words. You look at that innocent face, which either genuinely has no clue about the situation or is perceptive enough to realize the mistake and is about to burst into tears with the fear of your reaction! Instantly, your rage melts away and you try very hard not to laugh or to hug that little angel!
As kids grow up, they make quite a few mistakes on the way to adulthood and sometimes even later. Why is it that parents are always ready to bail out their child, no matter how badly they have messed up? Its only because of the unconditional love.
I heard something very interesting on a popular sitcom recently – “Children are the most wonderful creatures, they live only in the present, run around the house naked with the least ounce of shame, and bring out the best in you.”
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
Change
For adults, change can be voluntary or forced. Mostly, we dread the both kinds. Recently, my husband and I took a gigantic step of moving from not just a city or a country, but from one continent to another. Even though, for us, it was returning to our home town… for our 3 year-old daughter, it was moving to a completely new place. For her, it was change in place, environment, people, school...everything. The only familiar aspect was her parents and few of her toys.
Even though we had anticipated the effect of change on her, little did we expect her to remember the small and seemingly, insignificant things. Suddenly, a rocking chair, her baby brush, a torn purse, all of which I had disposed of, before leaving, became a point of discussion in our home. It even led to a few tears and finally ended with buying a new toy!
Before moving, my husband and I discussed endlessly about the change and the effect it would have on us. We never really gave a serious thought to our daughter’s reaction, she being “just a 3 year old”! However, for “just 3 year old” kids, familiarity is very important. They see, hear and experience new things every moment. Probably, the only comfort zone for them is familiarity.
At the same time, kids are much more flexible than adults. As much as they like to cling on to familiar things, they adapt to new situations even better. After 6 months of moving to the new town, my daughter has adapted in many ways, including, learning the language and the ‘very local slang’ as if she was born here! 3 year olds don’t have the memory of an adult and soon she will even forget about her old home.
It’s us, adults who cling on to old memories and refuse to let go of them… and in doing so, maybe even miss the fun of today!
Even though we had anticipated the effect of change on her, little did we expect her to remember the small and seemingly, insignificant things. Suddenly, a rocking chair, her baby brush, a torn purse, all of which I had disposed of, before leaving, became a point of discussion in our home. It even led to a few tears and finally ended with buying a new toy!
Before moving, my husband and I discussed endlessly about the change and the effect it would have on us. We never really gave a serious thought to our daughter’s reaction, she being “just a 3 year old”! However, for “just 3 year old” kids, familiarity is very important. They see, hear and experience new things every moment. Probably, the only comfort zone for them is familiarity.
At the same time, kids are much more flexible than adults. As much as they like to cling on to familiar things, they adapt to new situations even better. After 6 months of moving to the new town, my daughter has adapted in many ways, including, learning the language and the ‘very local slang’ as if she was born here! 3 year olds don’t have the memory of an adult and soon she will even forget about her old home.
It’s us, adults who cling on to old memories and refuse to let go of them… and in doing so, maybe even miss the fun of today!
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